One thing for sure about weddings is that they are very systematic. There’s an ebb and flow to them, there are certain steps that need to be followed and certain elements that are found in pretty much every wedding.
It can be hard sometimes, for couples to feel like they can express their individuality, to say “this is us”, or if they do, they then feel like they might be doing something “wrong”.
There’s an image that I love, and maybe you’ve seen it…it’s the saying is “Because we’ve always done it that way” with a big red “X” over it, as if to say change is good.
Weddings are a blank slate. Just because weddings have always been done a certain way, that doesn’t mean you can’t change it up. Yes, there are certain things you need to do like book your vendors, apply for your marriage license (which is time specific), send out invites, but outside of the “moving parts”, everything else is really up to you to create.
There are three elements to a wedding that are perfect for showcasing your unique personality and there are Hudson Valley professionals who can help you design your unique vision.
When you think of a wedding, flowers are usually one of the first things you picture because the bride carries a bouquet with her. It’s usually always part of the look. However, what if you are allergic? What if you want something that lasts a little longer? What if you just don’t like flowers? Well, there’s an alternative!
How about brooch bouquets? What is a brooch bouquet, you ask? It’s a completely handmade bouquet usually made with fabric flowers and brooches, or all brooches and no flowers. Michelle Levy-Phelan (who you may remember from this article), creator and owner of Forever Brooch Bouquets in Suffern, NY says “These brooch bouquets are a great alternative to flowers because they last forever. They do not wilt, nor do they fall apart. No need to hang them upside down and dry them, because they will stay vibrant for years to come! You can eventually use the same bouquet that you walked down the aisle with as the centerpiece for your future dinner parties that you hold in your home. They will always sparkle.”
Levy-Phelan says brooch bouquets also become a keepsake. “The thought process behind them is that the great-grandchildren of the bride or groom can walk down the aisle at their own wedding with the bouquet in hand. They become a family heirloom.”
In addition, brooch bouquets are great ways to honor family, friends and loved ones too. “You can include anything in them,” says Levy-Phelan. “For example, brooches/jewelry from loved ones and friends, fabric and clothing from loved ones who have passed could be made into flowers or into the handle of the bouquet itself, picture frames with photos in them, as well as cremation jewelry to hold a loved one’s ashes while the bride walks down the aisle.” You can also use the bouquet as a way to honor those who mean the most to you by asking for a brooch or a piece of jewelry from every member of your family and friends and combine their brooches into a bouquet really making your bouquet extra special.
Your wedding rings, including your engagement ring, are another great place to showcase your personality. They say diamonds are a girl’s best friend, but it’s not the case for everyone. Diamonds are traditional, but if you want something different, it doesn’t mean you are doing anything ‘wrong’.
Dennis Fouhy, Vice President of De’s Jewelers in Poughkeepsie says gemstones are a very popular alternative to the traditional diamond. “There are a number of beautiful gemstones that can be used in place of a center diamond either for a price point or a custom look. Other popular choices are sapphires (a Princess Diana choice), deep green emeralds, the sky’s the limit,” says Fouhy.
Opened in 1964, De’s Jewelers, A family owned and operated, second generation jewelry store, has been around long enough to see almost everything when it comes to wedding jewelry, so they can help you make your ring as personal as you want. Fouhy recalls “A young lady wanted her diamond engagement ring to be ‘pretty in pink.’ Her one-of-a-kind design incorporated a magnificent Morganite set in rose gold.”
For the guys, the same rules apply. What if you don’t want a traditional gold (white or yellow) wedding ring? Fouhy says “There are a variety of contemporary metal wedding band choices. If your guy works with his hands or feels uncomfortable wearing a shiny gold ring, popular choices are the indestructible titanium, tungsten or cobalt chrome in simple or more elaborate designs.”
Now here’s a question…what if you have a metal allergy? Some people do, and if you are one, you don’t have to forgo a ring. There are great alternatives for you as well. “Platinum and palladium are great alternative metals for those with metal allergies,” says Fouhy.
Wedding cakes have been a staple in weddings since the pre-18th century and stems from many different cultural traditions dating back to Ancient Roman times. However, while you may have a sweet tooth, traditional cake may not ‘cut it’ (haha..sorry, had to add that pun!)
If cake isn’t your thing, have no fear! Couples these days are doing all sorts of things in place of traditional cake. Everything from pizza, to pie, to ice cream and anything else you can think of can be used instead. Even donuts!
Lisa and Ron Tompkins, owners of Glazed Over Donuts in Beacon is a boutique gourmet donut shop giving customers warm, totally customizable donuts with a variety of toppings to suit their every taste. “I think donuts are a great alternative because you can give a variety of flavors,” says Lisa. She says guests can enjoy “Something as simple as a spiced cinnamon-sugar to something as elaborate as maple glazed with walnuts and a maple syrup & cinnamon drizzle or lemon glaze with coconut and a raspberry drizzle. And people can eat them right then and there or save them for a sweet treat after the event.”
Lisa says couples have done a variety of different set-ups with donuts. She says, “We had one couple do a donut tower, but most have had them in nice little boxes with cute personalized labels to send home with their guests as favors. Several have had them as their dessert table as well. They had them placed on platters of varying shapes, sizes and heights.”
So, I hope this has given some ideas of ways you can incorporate your own style into your day. What are some unique elements you are adding into your wedding?
Featured Photo Credit: Forever Brooch BouquetsRead More